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Mother's day prep
Mother’s day is still a few weeks away. Grief is never easy, but there are some days where the pain of grief seems to intensify. For so many Mother’s Day is such a day. Having lost both a son as well as my mother I like many of you am faced with the question How do I celebrate with two such vital people missing from my life?
This newsletter is dedicated to all those who are hurting this Mother’s Day. In this newsletter we will offer articles providing a surprising history of Mother’s Day, ideas for preparing for the week, special thoughts from those who have been there and how to help those who are grieving. We also have some inspirational poems that we hope will speak to your heart and bring just a moment of understanding and hope.
~Glen Lord
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The History of Mother’s Day It is not just a Hallmark made up holiday
By Tanya Lord
There is no missing that Mother’s Day is approaching the stores are filled with gift ideas, commercials are promoting flower sales, even the restaurants advertise special Mother’s Day brunch. It is an American holiday widely celebrated. Sadly, for some Mother’s Day is being anticipated with dread. For mothers who have lost a child the day is always missing someone. For those who have lost a mother it is similarly empty. It is easy to begin to resent a day that seems to be set apart from others for no other reason but to fill the coffers of stores and restaurants.
Mother’s Day has a much more meaningful history than that of a commercial holiday. It began after the Civil War by women who had lost their sons in battle. It was originally a protest of extensive loss of life during the war. Julia Ward Howe the author of “ The Battle Hymn of the Republic”, wrote the original Mother’s Day proclamation.
Mother's Day Prep: The 3 Key Ingredients to Getting Through This Week
By losingyourparents
This whole mother’s day thing can be a real drag when you don't have a mother. Advertisements on the radio and television... emails piling up in your mailbox... plans being created all around you. When you don’t have a mother to celebrate, it's quite possible to feel like the loneliest person on the planet this week, especially, on Mother’s Day.
3 Ways to Survive Grief
By Pacific Myst
I am a griever.
I am a survivor.
You are probably the same as me--wondering how this enormous giant (grief) ever got ahold of us so immensely?
Here are three ways to survive. I believe in your option to survive well and to win against grief.
My Changing Perspective of Mother’s Day
By Chris Mulligan
Memory is the mother of all wisdom. Aeschylus
January 22, 1979 – October 1, 2000The DatesAs bereaved parents, we look at those dates often because this symbol represents our child in our present. Thinking about this Mother’s Day, I recognize how that symbol has changed for me over the years since my son Zac’s death.
I AM NOT A MOTHER !!
By widowerdad
Mother's Day means different things to different people. To me, it's bitter-sweet. Each year my young children (now 7 and 4) have different emotions as all of their friends celebrate with their mothers. That raises lots of feelings in me that I haven’t completely processed. On the other hand I celebrate the wonderful mother I have who is alive, in good health, and a tremendous help in raising my children.
The one thing about Mother's Day that bothers me the most is when people wish ME a happy Mother's Day. I want to scream back at them "I AM NOT A MOTHER"!!! I don't. I calmly remind them I am not a mother and swiftly change the subject..
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